A few weeks ago, Kendrick was telling me how he was working on a group project at school and the question of who would present the project in front of their entire class came up, and – without even thinking – he said “I will.” And I thought that was the coolest thing, to have your default setting when it comes to public speaking be “Sure, I can handle that,” to just have faith in your ability…and then go get it done.
I used to struggle – a lot – with stage fright. When I was working as an actress, the problem became so bad that it was actually crippling – I had to tailor my wardrobe to cover up shaking knees or a flushed neck, and once had an anxiety attack so extreme that I had to physically walk out of an audition with Jada Pinkett Smith, saying “I can’t do this” – and was a big part of why, after awhile, acting stopped being something that made me happy. When you have an enormous physical response that frequently stands smack in between you and your ability to get hired for a job and make a living, you eventually start thinking that maybe you need to do something different.
So when I say that it’s “exciting” to be able to speak on panels, give presentations, stand up in front of a really lot of people and just talk, I mean much more than “Oh, what a cool experience.” I mean that too, of course – it is cool, very cool – but even more I mean that there was this thing that used to be so much a part of my world that it cast huge shadows over my career, my future, my life…and the discovery that getting up on a stage wasn’t just something that I could learn how to “handle,” but something I could actually learn how to enjoy…
I suppose I just find that kind of incredible. The fact that, in time, we can move past even those things that feel impossible. Evolve.
This weekend I spoke on two panels – first at the Lucky FABB Conference with Elana Fishman of Lucky Magazine and next alongside E!‘s Catt Sadler for Simply Stylist – and both experiences weren’t just “fine”…they were fun.
Fun! For real.
I can hardly believe it. I wish I could let my 23-year-old self know just how much things can change.
A couple of shots from the Lucky FABB conference: Elana and I spoke about editorial calendars and planning your content over time, and the importance of staying on top of content creation.
And this was the Simply Stylist panel, where we discussed the value of building relationships in the online industry. From left: We Wore What, Alba Garcia, me (in Nieves Lavi), Catt Sadler of E!.
If you’re interested in these topics, here’s a rundown of past “Blog Advice” posts:
Blog Advice I: General Do’s And Don’ts
Blog Advice II: Rules & Disclosure
Blog Advice III: Finding The Time
Blog Advice IV: To Niche Or Not
Blog Advice V: Evergreen Content & Making Money
Blog Advice VI: Creating Cool Visuals
Blog Advice VII: Taking Selfies And Getting Over It
Now, the weekend wasn’t all about work, of course – it’s Halloween! (Or close enough, anyway.)
We spent Friday night playing pool with some friends before heading over to Horseman’s Hollow (the live-action haunted house in Sleepy Hollow that I’m always raving about)…
And then topped it all off with a trip to our town’s Halloween parade. (Batman came along for the ride.)
