Q. Hi Jordan,
As I continue to read your blog, I find myself especially appreciative of your posts about life issues faced by young women. They're definitely relevant to me and I love your honest and optimistic approach.
On that note, I'm really hoping you might be able to offer some advice about my relationship situation.
Kendrick and I go to the movies a lot.
It’s partially because we really like going to the movies – I personally enjoy the experience of being required to do absolutely nothing at all except for ingest salt-encrusted carbohydrates for two hours – but also partially because over time going to the movies has kind of become our default date. We don’t even usually go to dinner beforehand, because honestly? I am a crazy popcorn person and would rather eat more popcorn than less popcorn, and I don’t want to spoil my appetite with things like actual food.
Default Dating is something that happens to lots of couples, especially those who have been together for awhile. And there’s nothing wrong with this, but it’s not exactly…exciting. Or memory-making. It feels good just to get out, of course, but not like “dating” used to feel, which was sort of…great.
We make an effort to do lots of out-of-the-box-style activities with our son pretty much every weekend, but it’s rare that we take off on an adventure on our own. Over the years, I’ve come to realize that doing cool stuff together can be something that sort of gets away from you if you don’t pay attention.
I am sad summer is ending, obviously.
I'm also SO EXCITED summer is ending, because the Hudson Valley in autumn is like a kid who's been practicing for a performance all year long and finally gets to put on his costume and go on stage. I've now become one of those people who actually reads Westchester Magazine and calendars upcoming events in her iPhone (although that is the only Westchester Mom stereotype I will concede to...aside from, perhaps, a not-so-hot understanding of exactly what is going on with the highways and parkways and throughways around here and how one might learn how to navigate them within this century), and one of the events that I calendared way, way back was this one:
Sometimes, when I am very sleepy or scattered, I ask Kendrick to take a quick look at what I've written before I hit "publish". I just asked him to do that with this post, and this is a decent approximation of the look he gave me:
Here is what I thought seemed like a good idea to put on the internet:
"Kendrick arrived home on Friday afternoon, and the second - I mean tersecond - he stepped through the doorway, two things happened:
(Re-posting this ridiculous video because of high relevance to what I'm talking about below. Also because it's ridiculous.)
OK, so Kendrick's been an official full-time student for about three weeks now.
And while life hasn't made a 180 or anything - things are more or less clicking along as usual - there are definitely some differences between what life was like Before Grad School and what life is like During.
